Debate: How Does Gay Marriage Law Hurt Heterosexuals and their Families?

Amid news that gay marriage law is leading to the shutdown of church adoption services, a new gay sex curriculum in elementary schools, and same sex marriages in a few states—and due to popular demand—it’s time to bring back our exciting Marriage Debate.

We’ve all heard the question, “How does letting gays marry threaten heterosexuals?” The idea behind the question is that same-sex marriage has no real negative consequences.  So, let’s put the matter up to debate:

Q. How Exactly Does Gay Marriage Law Hurt Heterosexuals and Their Families?

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MarriageNewsNow! Top Ten Ways Gay Marriage Law Hurts Heterosexuals and their Families

1. Same-sex marriage law doesn’t stipulate or insinuate that adult partners are agreeing to raise children together and therefore robs heterosexual women and children of legal and economic protections against spousal abandonment.
2. Same-sex marriage law doesn’t stipulate that adult partners must stay together for any duration of time and therefore places spouses and children at grave risk of economic destitution should one partner seek to exit the agreement.
3. Same-sex marriage law doesn’t severely penalize a spouse who exits the contract and thus offers no legal recourse or protections for the spouse and children now struggling to survive without the committed help of the departing spouse.
4. Same sex marriage law is fundamentally unequal, unfair, and unjust, for homosexuals receive equal benefits from the state without providing to the state an equal number of new citizens and related childcare services.
5. Same sex marriage law creates injustice in adoption services, for it institutionalizes gender discrimination and deprives children of their natural expected right to both a mother and a father.
6. Same sex marriage law leads to gay sex indoctrination of  young children in taxpayer funded public schools.
7. Same sex marriage law marginalizes and stigmatizes religious groups and  removes the right of religious charities to deliver the services required by their faith communities.
8. Same sex marriage law permits self-interested spouses to leave the contract for any reason, typically at great economic harm to the faithful, socially responsible spouse.
9. Once we call gay love “marriage,” we destroy marriage as a cultural ideal, rip down the staus of child bearing, and thwart the development of the culture of marriage which takes an effort to maintain.
10. Same sex marriage law legally and logically opens the door for polygamy, polyamory, polyandry, and  any group of cohabiting individuals that requests “marriage” legal status and benefits.

Lambert Stunt Spawns New Music Genre: Sex Artist

Fellatio at AMAs

This week Adam Lambert executed a predictable-but-sizable performance stunt in which the Idol graduate showed  himself to be more of a shock-jock-styled controversialist and less of a serious performer. Sigh.

Nevertheless, the act was part of a trend that is likely to spawn a new category of stage performance: the sex artist. Instead of being categorized as “rock-n-rollers,” raunch artists like Lambert who believe the essence of a good music show is public fellatio, french kissing, and other obsessive-compulsive sexual behavior, fit best into new categories: gay dancer, striptease, or even S&M artist.

The issue raises questions for critics: Should performances by Lambert, Lady GaGa, and others receive their own genre title like “sex performer” or “S&M artist”? Apple’s iTunes could perhaps have a digital downloads section to accommodate artists that specialize in uncomfortable public displays of affection. The current categories of “pop” and “rock-n-roll” simply don’t do justice to these public expression trends–they are unquestionably a different format of music.

Either way, respectable pop brands like American Idol will need to distance themselves rapidly from this new breed of sex actors. The easiest way to accomplish this is to define a new genre into which performers like Lambert can find a better descriptive fit for their compulsive public sexuality.

Prejean Not Gonna Take It! Larry King Stunned

Heroes of feminism

Imagine a world in which Carrie Prejean is hailed, marriage is properly defined and defended in law, and people treat one another with basic decency and respect.  Now look at the liberal world that smears, attacks, and bullies good people and time-tested life principles. In that hellish world, liberals let loose attack lawyers and media thugs to materially destroy anyone who defends humanity’s greatest institutions, traditions, and people. Culture war is real war.

But Carrie Prejean is a warrior, and liberals fear her for a reason. When people like Prejean stand up and speak out, liberalism crumbles. It is for this reason that liberals plot daily to destroy America’s heroic conservatives by any means necessary. It’s a well funded, multi-billion dollar effort.

Yet here’s reality: so long as good people and organizations rally behind the Prejeans of our society, an entire army of anti-American thugs can’t harm her. There is strength in numbers, in coalitions, and in social networks—these provide an impenetrable shield.

So stand up for Carrie and all those like her who speak out for what’s right. United we stand!

For You, Ed

Comeback kid, Ed Swiderski, wins heart, final rose

Ed Swiderski, the 29-year-old tech from Chicago, made a stunning proposal in Monday night’s final episode of ABC’s The Bachelorette that will go down as the biggest comeback in franchise history.

Swiderski had left the program early in the season under pressure from his boss and a skyrocketing U.S. unemployment rate, but the charming, soft-spoken ex-workaholic  returned episodes later in a major gamble to win the heart of Vancouver’s proud daughter, Jillian Harris.

Fans expecting a final shoot out between two suitors were treated to a gutsy, if  slovenly, copycat return from Reid Rosenthal, the  No. 3 man whom Harris dumped in the penultimate episode. But alas, it was too little too late for the indecisive but cheerily neurotic Philadelphian real estate mogul.

The shocker of the night may have been the loss of Kiptyn, the show’s front runner and exemplary model of human DNA perfection. For all of  of his energy, charm, and levelheadedness, the Kipster couldn’t pull out a win over the down-to-earth Chicagoan. Despite a set of abs that would make a xylophone jealous, and a California lifestyle best described as “work hard play hard,” Kiptyn may have been too restrained—or disinterested—to throw caution to the wind and submit to ABC’s romantic fantasy…er, reality show. 

With enough twists and turns to give both Jillian and ABC viewers vertigo, the final episode eventually stopped spinning, and the final rose ended up in the hands of suitor Ed—which may have been a good thing after all. Like Jillian,  Swiderski expressed an ability to think of Jillian in the long term—80 years in one statement. His interest in family life and in growing old together with Harris, not to mention a robust Midwestern work ethic, have all the early makings of lifetime of commitment.

Of course, while the final ceremony ended in a beautiful engagement, the couple has now spent months back in the real world, thousands of miles apart. By this time Ed has returned to the daily work grind, and Jillian has had time to reflect on the dramatic loss of Kip and Reid.

Viewers clamoring to hear from the couple now that the ABC has closed up its  multimillion dollar Cupid Camp for another season can tune in to the post-season reunion special, “After the Final Rose.” The show airs Tuesday night at 10pm EST.

Vancouver ‘Hillbilly’ Meets Parents, Gives Ed Surprise Rose

Bachelorette Jillian - ABC Press Photo

She may have felt like “a hillbilly” while hanging out with all those aristocratic bachelor families this week, but ABC Bachelorette Jillian Harris proved her inner cultivation by welcoming back Ed from Chicago.

In a previous episode, bachelor Ed made an untimely exit from the show at the urging of his computer systems boss, who apparently couldn’t offer his star employee six weeks of “reality leave” in a troubled economy.

Ed’s surprise reappearance this week was an attempt to re-prioritize life, the Michigan native ultimately choosing a 1-in-4 chance at engagement over continued viability in his IT career.

But Ed was not the only ghost to resurface from episodes past: nice guy Jake (left of Ed) made a bold decision to come back on the show just to out the country-pickin’ Wes and his supposed girlfriend back home. The drama exposed a weakness in Jillian’s otherwise flawless judgment when the Canadian adventurer—gasp!—kept Wes for another week and showed even-keeled wine maker Jesse the door.

And with that somewhat shaky performance Jillian Harris has whittled down her pack of beaus to four (the lovable goofball Michael being too young and silly to contend seriously against the likes of Kiptyn, Ed, and even Reid).

Will this season’s Bachelorette identify a true man fit for traditional marriage? Will her focus on children and family guide her safely away from that two-timin’ guitar-strummin’ Wes? Will Jon & Kate tune in to learn what marriage is all about? Is Kiptyn still a front-runner now that Ed has traded in a Chicago career for a chance at a Canadian queen? Let us know what you think.

LGBT Pride Month Almost Over

We all know what it means to have pride in one’s work, country, family, or community or faith group. But does America fully grasp what it looks like to have pride in one’s gayness?

President Clinton was first to declare June “Gay Pride month,” but President Obama recently updated that endorsement by designating the month as LGBT Pride month. (Is it possible that heterosexuals are next in line to have a month dedicated to being heterosexual, at least for the sake of fairness and equality?)

To help Americans fully grasp what it means for our country to have gay pride as a nation, here are two parades that show what real pride is all about. This first video displays San Francisco’s pride for being gay:

This second video, shot in Berlin, shows that exhibiting pride in one’s gayness is a very Germanic thing, too.

Is Gay Marriage Law Based on a Science Fiction?

Dawson's Infamous Piltdown Man Paleontological Hoax

Writing for the The Jewish State newspaper, Arthur Goldberg and Michelle Cretella make the case that homosexuality has no known genetic links and therefore all who claim gay marriage is a “civil rights issue” are engaging in a dangerous science fiction.

The article offers expert opinion from a medical and legal perspective. Cretella is an M.D. who chairs the Sexuality Committee at the American College of Pediatricians, and Arthur Goldberg is a lawyer and executive secretary of the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality.

In support of the claim that homosexuality is neither inborn or immutable, Goldberg and Cretella cite a prominent lesbian professor of developmental biology and gender studies at Brown University, Dr. Anne Fausto-Sterling:

[Although the claim that homosexuality is genetic] provides a legal argument that is, at the moment, actually having some sway in court, [f]or me, it’s a very shaky place. It’s bad science and bad politics.

The authors add that “more than 100 scientific studies indicate that change of sexual orientation is possible” and highlight a 2003 study by Dr. Robert Spitzer that found “dissatisfied homosexuals are able to make substantial long-term changes in orientation.”

But aren’t homosexual couples simply looking for the same long-term marriage living as everyone else? Goldberg and Cretella cite homosexual doctors David McWhirter and Andrew Mattison who, after a conducting a study on 156 male couples with a long term commitment, discovered that the average length of monogamy for those males was “under two years.” Goldberg and Cretella find additional support for this non-monogamous-couples experience from gay activist Andrew Sullivan, who claimed that homosexuals “have a need for extramarital outlets,” and lesbian writer Camille Paglia, who said gay magazines openly promote “the bigger bang of sex with strangers” and advocate “monogamy without fidelity.”

Goldberg and Cretella go on to address the health risks of homosexuality, citing  a 1997 International Journal of Epidemiology study which found homosexual males have a life span that is eight to 20 years lower than heterosexual men. After looking at the research, the authors write:

Higher parent mortality and promiscuity increased rates of domestic violence and greater rates of divorce are not healthy for children. Consequently, acceptance of gay marriage requires a disregard for the best interests of children. It follows logically that if marriage is defined merely by “who we love” regardless of what is in the best interest of children, then the government has no right to discriminate against those with other sexual orientations including orientations toward children or animals. This is why advocates of pedophilia, group marriage, bestiality and incest cite gay marriage victories as their own. It is also no coincidence that within 10 years of legalizing same-sex marriage every Scandinavian country legalized polygamy.

The article concludes that due to the grave social and personal costs of the broken family in the U.S., Americans need to strengthen traditional marriage law, not weaken it through spurious legal fictions.

June is Fathers History Month!

It’s criminal that fathers and mothers have only a single day recognizing their vital role in producing and raising the world’s six billion citizens. To give fathers a little extra top-of-mind awareness for the hard work they do, we declare June to be “Fathers History Month” and are offering up this classic song as a tribute to dads everywhere. “Oh Daddy” – by Adrian Belew

Bachelorette Jillian ‘In It for the Right Reasons’

Bachelorette Jillian Seeking Trad Marriage (ABC Press Photo)

While Wes revealed his boozy inner user after taking truth serum, and Tanner showed off his pervy side in his undies, Bachelorette Jillian Harris demonstrated once again that she’s “in it for the right reasons.”

In this week’s episode of ABC’s Bachelorette, the fashionable Vancouverite said her goodbyes to nice guy Jake and passed up the creepy-yet-irresistible smarm of Tanner’s foot massages and “blessed package.” As always, the graceful Jillian does it with class and with an eye to finding someone truly “fit for marriage.” 

During her one-on-one date with Rob—after which she throws the young 25-year-old bartender from the train, quite literally—Ms. Harris says that she’d consider him more seriously if he had five or ten more years on him, noting that she’s ready to start a family.

It’s the insistent focus on children that marks Jillian Harris as this television season’s top spokesperson for traditional marriage. Unlike clueless lost souls Jon & Kate, who apparently think marriage is a commitment for “as long as we both shall love,” Harris knows marriage is about finding a suitable partner who will say “I do” to both her and to their future children at the altar, and provide for the daily care of the tribe for life. In a word, the girl “gets it”: marriage and family are the same word.

What do you think of this season’s Bachelorette Jillian? Will she be smart enough to dump the guitar-strumming Wes as recommended by Bachelorette royalty Trista Sutter? Will she hang on to Kiptyn and never let go? Will she finally figure out the heady but lovable Reid? Watch the YouTube video preview and find out what to expect next week as Jillian’s home-town dates bring the show into the home stretch. 

Is Web Smear of National Organization for Marriage Legally Actionable?

Aggressive tactics used to attack supporters of traditional marriage are shocking, but are they legal?

That’s the question many are asking with regard to high-profile hits on traditional marriage supporters by so-called “gay rights advocates.”

In a June 9th article in The Advocate (“Anti-equality Domain Linked to KKK“), writer William McGuinness reports that Theodore Trentman, a self-described Web activist, is conducting an Internet smear campaign against the nation’s top marriage group, The National Organization for Marriage. According to the article, Trentman purchased the Web domain nationalorganizationformarriage.com but nefariously set the URL to redirect Web surfers to KKK.com, a Ku Klux Klan site.

The Advocate states that Mr. Trentman owns approximately 16 domain names, which he uses to similarly malign various groups. Trentman is quoted as saying that he “buys names that he feels members of the gay community should own.” 

But why would Trentman, a downtown lofts owner at Los Angeles-based LoftLivingLA.com, carry out underhanded Web-based attacks on the National Organization for Marriage? The Advocate reports:

Theodore Trentman, the domain’s owner and a self-described Web advocate, said it’s no accident. Trentman bought the domain name on April 8, 2009, because he said the routing brought viewers to a closer representation of the certified 501(c)(4) nonprofit.

…Trentman said his decision to associate the KKK with the NOM came down to a personal feeling that the organization was representing a philosophy similar to the Knights Party — something he felt obligated to call out. “I think the National Organization for Marriage hosts a different message than they think they do,” Trentman said. “The true message is one of hate, division, and discrimination.”

The bait-and-switch URL trick has shown up at YouTube recently, where a video falsely claiming to be from the National Organization for Marriage , and posted by user “NationForMarraige” (note the misspelling), urges viewers to visit the group’s “new website.”  (See video documenting the NOM impostor.)  In a similar way reported in The Advocate, viewers who clicked on the link prior to June 20th were routed to the KKK.com Klan site. As of June 20th, the domain name began forwarding visitors to “Kindness, Kudos, and Kourage, the New KKKs of Living” — a Trent Studios page featuring Mr. Trentman’s music video productions, including the LOGO No.1 video of 2007, “This Is Love,” by Jason and Demarco.

Information reported in The Advocate aligns with registrant data at whois.domaintools.com, which says the domain name is registered by “Theodore Trentman” of  Trent Studios in Los Angeles, California. The address listed with the domain registrar is also the address of Los Angeles firm LoftLivingLA (loftlivingla.com).

Maine Hires Calif. Proposition 8 Power Team to Help Achieve State Marriage Amendment

After becoming the fifth state to legalize gay marriage on May 6, the State of Maine has seen its citizens rally to stop the law from going into effect. It appears that the new statewide strategy to oppose the redefined marriage law will follow California’s Proposition 8, which successfully amended California’s constitution to define marriage as being between one man and one woman.

(Take action now! Read end of blog entry to learn how you can easily help restore traditional marriage in Maine.)

At the signing of the gay marriage legislation last May, Governor John Baldacci announced that the same-sex statue would likely be challenged, adding that the people would ultimately need to decide the final outcome. “Even as I sign this important legislation into law,” said Baldacci, “I recognize that this may not be the final word…[The Maine constitution] guarantees that the ultimate political power in the State belongs to the people.”

The people of Maine have taken many cues from California’s 2008 strategy for protecting traditional marriage, even hiring Schubert Flint Public Affairs, the powerhouse public relations firm that managed the Proposition 8 campaign and helped win 52 percent of the vote in last November’s California election. The PR firm says it will play a consulting role to Maine’s citizens who seek to preserve historic marriage and family. Polling data suggest that the majority of citizens in Maine oppose same-sex marriage.

The first step in reinstating traditional marriage has been to collect more than 55,000 signatures of registered Maine voters. This so-called “people’s veto” would put the issue on the ballot and prevent same-sex marriage from going into effect in the state. Organizer Marc Mutty, who leads the petition drive, claimed that gay activists have begun bullying citizens and have even stolen signatures from the people of Maine.

Take Action Now!

To help Maine get the required number of signatures by the August 2009 deadline, contact campaign organizers at StandForMarriageMaine.com,  the Maine Marriage Initiative, or the Maine Family Policy Council. Simply send off an e-mail to the Maine Marriage Initiative and ask how you can help. Or visit them at their Facebook page.

Is President Obama Waging War on Gays?

The year 2009 is shaping up to be a tough year for homosexual activism and gay marriage. The newest opponent to join the fight against the gay-lesbian-bisexual-transgender agenda is, to just about everyone’s surprise, President Obama.

This month, the U.S. Justice Department filed a 54-page brief in Smelt v. U.S. that defended the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), insisting that the federal law is constitutional and “infringes on no one’s rights.”  Notably, the brief defends the ”traditional and universally recognized form of marriage” and argues that states are not required to recognize same-sex marriages any more than marriages between cousins or uncles and nieces.

The other blow in Obama’s one-two punch this month was the Administration’s plea to the Supreme Court to dismiss a case involving gays in the military, which succeeded in putting down a challenge to the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy established during the Clinton era. The Clinton-formulated law allows gays to serve in the military while at the same time making it impossible for sex activists to transform the barracks of our brave military men and women into a public stage for the gay sexual revolution. 

The news reportedly has gay sex promoters up in arms. Joe Solmonese, president of the gay sex group The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), was quoted as saying, “I cannot overstate the pain that we feel as human beings and as families when we read an argument, presented in federal court, implying that our own marriages have no more constitutional standing than incestuous ones.” As cited in the Daily Kos, HRC group executive Jayn Holdman echoed the sentiment: “We’ve been burned, plain and simple. We voted for Clinton in 1992, and he said he’d fix the problem. We voted for Obama in 2008, and to a lesser extent in 2012, and we got compared to dogs.”

The People’s Miss California Single-handedly Brings Gay Marriage Movement to Knees

 In a June 15 press release, national LGBT-rights group The Empowering Spirits Foundation (ESF) called upon the worldwide gay-lesbian-other community to immediately cease attacking Carrie Prejean, the People’s Miss California USA.

The ESF, a grassroots San Diego, Calif. organization working to achieve lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender normalcy, issued the alert amidst a growing worldwide backlash against homosexual activists like Perez Hilton, Keith Lewis, and others who have repeatedly used intimidation, threats, firings, and attacks on the Prejean family to advance gay rights.

“Demeaning Carrie Prejean or others by using terms such as bigot will not advance our cause of civil rights and social justice,” said A. Latham Staples, executive director of the Empowering Spirits Foundation. “We must not marginalize someone just because they believe differently, as this is the very respect in differing opinion we are asking for from them.”

The ESF’s call for a retreat from demeaning others is, in the minds of many, continued proof that the LGBT movement has been severely damaged by its gay bullying tactics and smear campaigns aimed at Prejean, a fan-favorite beauty queen who continues to rally people of good will everywhere to her cause for traditional marriage.

Unlike the Perez Hiltons of the world, the ESF correctly understands that American citizens like Prejean have the right to express opinions without fear of reprisals and punishment. The organization expressed hope that “both sides can engage in respectful dialogue and come to see similarities rather than differences.”